What Does The Bible Say About Sex Between Unmarried People?

In certain countries, our generation seems to be obsessed with sexual activity.  This is not something new as sex is a beautiful act between a loving couple.  Sexual intercourse is something that has been around since the advent of humankind on the earth.  If you follow the secular view on sex, you will ‘learn’ that sex is something done between people that love each other.  It is the physical consummation of a relationship, or at least that is whathow many people see it.  However, if that is the case, why do people’s conscience convict them when they have sex outside of marriage?

It’s nice to know how people see things.  However, if you look at humankind, you will find that people’s attitudes change with time, in some cases people’s attitudes change so quick it’s almost like the changing weather.  Changes standards and morals can get you in trouble.  More important than understanding people’s attitudes toward something, we should really know God’s view on things.  That will not get us in trouble.

Knowing God’s view on something is much easier you think.  People that know God are people who know the Word of God, otherwise known as the Bible.  The Word (AKA the Bible) is the inspired book written by men and women who we’re inspired by God’s Spirit (2 Timothy 3:16).  If you want to know God’s ways, you need to know God’s Word.

God’s view on sex has been laid out from the beginning.  In Genesis we see the first love story between humans, the first sex between Adam and Eve in Mesopotamia (present day Iraq).  Every person on this earth can trace their roots to our common ancestors, Adam and Eve.

Sex was designed by God to allow humankind to procreate, to reproduce and bring further generations of people into the Earth.  Sex has two purposes,

to procreate is obvious as a child is conceived through sex.  However the other purpose of sex is pleasure.  It is the coming together of the husband and wife.  Sex is beautiful.  When two people come together, this physical act is not only the coming together of a man and a woman, it is the union of two human spirits.  God’s Word describes the marriage relationship saying,

Sex is for married people.  It is an act between a husband and a wife.  As we see in Genesis, it is not an act to be done between multiple men and women.  We see multiple sex partners is not God’s design as the human body is very susceptible to disease when people are not focused on their husband or wife.

In fact, 1 Corinthians 7:2 makes it very clear that a husband and wife must focus their sexual desires on their spouse.  The Bible repeatedly shows that sex outside of marriage is sin.  You find numerous scriptures that describe seriousness of sexual promiscuity.  Bible passages such as Acts 15:20; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13, 18; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7…  These scriptures refer to sexual activity outside of the marriage relationship as sexual immorality.

Sex outside of marriage is sin.  It is not God’s plan.  It is a union between people and brings confusion and condemnation.  The more partners one has, the more trouble a person can get into.  Each time you have sex, you are uniting with that person.  With extramarital sex, you are giving away a piece of yourself to each person you unite with.

Couples are to protect their marriage and their sexual relationship between the husband and wife.  Acts 13:4 says that believers are to keep the marriage bed pure.  It is just something very intimate between a husband and a wife.

When you have sex outside of marriage, your conscience will convict you.  Do it for long, your conscience will become numb and so will any relationship with God.  If you are a follower of Jesus and you are in a sexual relationship, you are in sin.  The end of sin is separation from God and death.  God loves you and He wants to be with you.  With God, you always have a way out of sin.  You’ve got to do something.

If you acknowledge your sin (say it out, or confess it as the Bible says), God is faithful to forgive you according to 1 John 1:9.  It’s God’s promise.  Now, it is time to make a decision. Sexual sin will mess you up, but you can get right with God.  Sexual sin is very serious and in fact there are 73 times in the Bible that talk about it.  Sex inside of marriage is beautiful as that is what God planned it for. If you have passions that are hard to control, it’s time to get married and focus those passions on your spouse and building the best marriage.  Great marriages are made by two people who work at it.  Great parents have excellent children.  These excellent children are the best people to work with, to hire, to partner with, and to even marry.  Families are the base of a strong and healthy society.  Sex is an essential part of that relationship from wedding day, to death do they part.